Today at the pool a mom put on a parenting clinic.
What not to do. The details of the following story are not exaggerated. In fact, it was much worse.
Now here are two disclaimers:
1. This is probably how I would parent if I didn't have a wife who read many books on parenting.
2. My purpose in posting this is not to deride this mom, but to remind myself and others what not to do.
We'll call this boy Charlie.
Charlie (6 years old) V. Mom (36 yrs old):
Mom: "Let's go Charlie!"
Charlie: in the pool, ignoring her
Mom: "If you don't get out, then I'll just come and drag you out."
Mom [now resorting to scare tactics]: "I'm leaving." starts to leave
Charlie: comes out to the door and starts crying
Mom: opens the door as if to leave
Charlie: "Can I just jump in one more time?"
5 minutes later...
Mom: "Let's go now"
Charlie: Running away
Mom: Starts to chase him around the pool, but stops because she couldn't catch him... "One.."
Charlie's friend in pool [laughing]: "...Two...Three..."
Mom: "Charlie, don't make me come in and drag you out."
Charlie: laughing and swimming away
Mom: starting to leave again
Charlie: crying and throwing a fit in pool
Mom: "If you don't get out, you're going to stay in your room all day long." (she said this at least twice...)
Mom: pretending to leave
Charlie's friend: "Charlie, are you going to stay here the rest of your life?"
Charlie: exasperated, gets out of the pool
Mom: "Say good-bye to your friend"
Charlie: pouting, ignoring her words
Summary of things not to do:
2. Give empty commands
3. Raise voice
4. Empty threats
5. No consequences for disobedience
7. Exasperating him
What to do is another post for another time... I need to go ask Leatha.